Old Friend

You might remember that a few weeks ago I read through my old Livejournal from my first and second years of college. While reading through the journal I came across all these people I had pushed to the back of my mind, one of them was this woman JC, who was a manager at the Gap when I worked there, but she's only a few years older than me. I looked her up on Facebook, we messaged back and forth, and that was kind of it.

Then, on Friday, I was walking to the movies, and I ran into her on the street. We chatted for a few minutes and said we should meet for drinks. So tonight we had drinks and it was really great. It's not often that I get to really talk to my friends from high school and college, it's always an email here, a Facebook message there and I never talk to anyone who worked at the Gap with me even though for several years some of these people were my good friends. I felt like I could talk honestly about work and my feelings on moving to the city and my experiences from years ago in a way that I just don't feel comfortable talking about with people I work with, even though those people also double as my friends. I think it's a conflict of interest I never realized and I'm going to have to think about it some more.

We had a great time and we're going to do it again. It just reminded me that I really to branch out.

And work is getting worse and worse. I don't know what to do. Or who to talk to. It just gets more and more frustrating.

Passive Aggressiveness

I have this friend, she's a work friend, and she's a lovely girl, but she's very insecure. And, unfortunately, this insecurity comes out in the form of being nasty to other people. She's someone who loves to dish it out, but she just can't take it. She's also prone to these temper tantrums, where someone does incredibly minor, but it sets her off and she sighs loudly or slams her hands on the table and then storms off and doesn't speak to anyone. She's called me a liar, she says things like "Ok, then I guess you all just don't want me there," etc. So I've adopted a new approach, I just say, "ok." Today she said she guesses she isn't invited to lunch anymore and I said, "I guess you're not." Is this the most mature thing on my part? Maybe not, but what am I supposed to do? I'm not in middle school, I don't want to deal with this. So I'm ignoring.

Yesterday, in my exhausted stupor, I forgot my most important news: I lost 6.4lbs last week!! I was so excited. Clearly I don't expect to lose that much every week, I have realistic expectations of 1-2lbs/week, but it felt good to see such a large number. Definitely a motivator.

Oh the drama...

I had a completely middle school experience at work today. There is this man that works with us, he's a sales manager, which is a mid-level position. He's weird. And I don't mean that in a rude way, he just is. And I know lots of weird people that I love dearly, but he is not one of them. He's awkward, he says strange things, and he does magic tricks. No one in our office really cares for him, but my boss is nice to him because she feels bad for him. Getting to my point, apparently last week this man went to my boss and vented to her about how unfair and rude it is that we never invite him to eat lunch with us. Now our lunch group started at about 4 people and is now sometimes as large as 12, but most days is between 8 and 10. We eat in the conference room because it has windows and it's just an escape from work. We're all good friends and most of us are friends outside of work. So the fact that this man, who has never had a normal conversation with any of us, wants to eat with us is just odd. But wait, it gets better, apparently he thinks that I'm the ringleader of the lunch group and that I'm the one that doesn't want to invite him!

So now I feel like some kind of middle school mean girl! Clearly I am not making an effort to exclude him from our lunch group. Do I want him there? No, not at all, but if someone else wanted to invite him or if he just came in I wouldn't say anything to him. Hell, I wouldn't even be rude because I work with him and that's not appropriate. My boss, who is very honest, told him that if he wants to eat with us he should come in and eat with us. That we don't invite her or several other people, but that if any of them wanted to they would come in and join us. This man is in his mid-30s, married, and has a child. I'm just shocked that this is what he spends his time thinking about. 

Ok, petty drama over. I hate being sucked into this crap. Speaking of petty drama, Gossip Girl really sucked tonight. I swear one of the previews for the second half of the season showed Dorota getting a boyfriend, when will that happen? And Blair and Nate back together? Blair belongs with Chuck. And they need to kill off Serena. And Dan.